When woman choose you


I’m not a dating coach or relationship expert. In American / Western dating culture, men are expected to pursue women (unless you’re gay, lol).

I’m 40 years old, a single dad, full-time stay-at-home parent and caregiver. In my 20s and early 30s, I approached lots of women. Rejections? Plenty. Ghosting? Of course. “Let’s be friends” dates? Classic.

In my entire adult life, only three women have ever approached me first—and all through social media, not dating apps. They weren’t attractive to me, but hey, equality, right? I still went out with them.

So for the unfortunate men who suddenly get approached by women and don’t know what to do—relax. You’re not breaking a social rule. You’re just experiencing a RARE event. Please read the picture above.

Personal Reflection

Did I have negative experiences with them? Yes, I did. Everyone has negative experiences with others—everyone. But yeah, I’m still glad I went out with those three women who approached me first; otherwise, I might’ve missed out on the blessings. And honestly, every woman I personally approached in the past, I’m glad I didn’t end up being part of her life permanently. Whew 😆 Seriously 💯

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